I rarely leave comments on anything…but this was so sweet and endearing. I hope your sads go away quickly!

Girl after my own heart. I always say that if you’re going to do anything you should do it with a level of enthusiasm. So when I’m bitching I remind myself that ” I enjoy the complaining. ” It always makes me giggle and lifts the weight pretty quickly.

i love that, desi! i’m doing my best to embrace that kind ‘tude.

I used to do the same thing with my college roommates!! We had a play list and everything for those sort of days! It was so cliché and sorrowful that we would end up in fits of giggles over the sappiness. Steel magnolias and terms of endearment were our go to movies for when we needed a good cry…having amazing girlfriends around you gets you out of those dumps real quick! Feel better!

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Amazing timing, Kate! I’ve felt so overwhelmed by work/life this week and felt a little under water. Which is actually a really strange feeling for me since I’m generally level-headed and optimistic! But, it’s all about embracing every part of life.

xx

p.s. wine definitely helps

Love. And true. Especially the social media part. Woofta.

YES. You’re right on every account here. When I’m in a funk, I find that the best thing to do is to drop everything and go eat and drink with a friend. That always makes me feel better. And the title of that notebook literally made me bust out laughing. I could fill a whole notebook with “boys I have met, and how they have proceeded to disappoint me.”

Love this ever so much!!

And thank you for advising people to avoid social media. Facebook status whiners are the worst! :9

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This is such a sweet post; really good advice. I also love your playlist!

You just made this the most appealing pity party! The Scotch print is delightful!

Beautiful post, Kate—from the layout to the items to the text. Really solid. xo

How funny, I am in the middle of the biggest pity party ever. These tips are perfect for my state of mind. I was just working on a blog post about trying to pull myself out of it…maybe I will stay a little longer

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seriously ice cream is my savior!

January has definitely left me down in the dumps but this reminds me that sometimes that can be quite fun (if you have ice cream and liquor down there with you!)

Brilliant post! Exactly kind of thing you hope to see once in a while on blogs, but rarely do. Something about gloomy January–always has same effect on me no matter where I live. Love the list–especially the journal and knitted briefs.

This is so awesome and so what I needed to read today. I don’t know why January is like this – don’t all the magazines say it’s supposed to be an exciting time for a fresh start? – but I completely empathize with you in this and feel like maybe a pity party is just the thing I need: to let it all out and be done with it. Looks I’ve got my Friday night plans.

Thanks for this, and I hope things start getting better. For what it’s worth, your blog is one of my very favorites – so beautifully designed and very smart.

x

One of your readers said this before and it is so, so true for me- your blog [you!] make my life better!

thank you for everything you share, you really are the best. hope you kick those blues soon, xo

Please tell me where I can get my hands on those uber cute wool undies!?!?!?!

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I especially like the banner, actually – makes it feel like a real party.

The “I recommend Scotch” card is by Oblation Papers and Press (http://www.oblationpapers.com/products/scotch.html) in Portland, Ore. I work there and it’s very lovely to see us represented on your blog

Sorry to hear you’ve been down, Kate! We’ve all been there (as I’m sure you know!) When I’m down, I like to do stuff that reminds me what I love (about where I live, about my friends and family, my work, etc.). A string of bad luck only means a string of good luck is sure to follow xx

amen sister! thanks for reminding me of ways to kick my blues away. martinis, music (played really loud) and a good night of restfull sleep always seem to help me….and you’re right about social media. ha!

Hahaha! this is so funn.! And practical too I love it.
Hope you’re in a better mood now.

GREAT post. I hope Breyer’s mint chocolate chip ice cream and Breakfast at Tiffanys are also acceptable substitutes

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best practice #1 is so spot on! what a great post.

Hahaha YES

Love this! I’m linking to it on my blog because it fits perfectly with my mood today. Living abroad is wonderful but it can make for some pretty amazing pity parties! Thanks!

Oh, yes. My pitty party last week was no where near as good as this one! For one thing, I did not have cashmere undies or a warm water bottle. Guess I have to try again next week

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Simply Fabulous! Totally love the embrace of some down in the dumps time! It makes you feel good when you come out the other side and realise it’s all going to be alright in the end thanks xxx

What an amazing post, I think many of us suffer from mid-January blues, I know I had my own mini-meltdown just the other day, for me my pity party involved a new copy of Vogue, a large hot chocolate, a LARGE slice of chocolate cake, a moan to some good friends and my mum, and an early night. Felt much better the morning after! Hope your January blues leave you soon! xxx

I…. I’m amazed. Every single provision and practice listed is impossibly accurate. A friend sent this to me because both my grandpa and dog died this week, and also it’s just that time of year, so I’m in great need of a pity party. How in the world did you know that all I want is a comfy sweater, coffee ice cream, scotch and a journal? AND THAT PLAYLIST. Of the ten songs I’ve heard thus far, FIVE are seriously among my all-time favorites.

I normally don’t comment on things but I’m pretty sure we’re the exact same person.

Overall, I’m impressed and grateful for such a delightful post.

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I think i’ll do this the next time i hold a pity party.

This is PERFECT! I’m going to keep this in mind for those crummy days.

I Love this!

this is ridiculously awesome!

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